Used vs. Loved


While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times not realizing he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father… with painful eyes he asked, “Dad when will my fingers grow back?”

The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it many times.

Devastated by his own actions……sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had writtenLOVE YOU DAD”.


Anger and love have no limits. Choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life. Remember this: Things are to be used and people are to be loved.


The problem in today’s world is that people are used while things are loved. People are used more for one’s selfish motives and when they are of no more any use they are quickly discarded. This is increasingly being seen in the modern society.


There was a time when people used to take care of the elderly relatives in the family. But now things have changed drastically. The elderly people are either abandoned or at the most left in some old age home. Old age home can never compensate for the warmth and love of one’s own family. It is very sad to see that the elderly, who gave the prime of their lives in bringing up the new generation, should be so shabbily treated by that very generation.


Let’s always keep this thought in mind:

Things are to be used.

People are to be loved.


Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character.

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

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5 thoughts on “Used vs. Loved

  1. Arshi. S. Bonde

    Nicely written ??

  2. Rita

    Hari Aum,

    This story shows father’s mistake. Children are not always at fault. Sometimes parents also commit errors in judgement. I always pray that God gives me an understanding mind for children and the power to understand their little, delicate heart. This article teaches us that people are always selfish but little children are never selfish.

  3. Aniket Rane

    Quality content comparing used n loved.

  4. SWATI

    People are used and things are loved has become basis of kaliyuga….the other side pointed out by Rita for errors by parents may be sometimes true but what article wants us to take is love people and use things irrespective of any relationship but not who is wrong or right since there is no wrong or right but what matters is situation and our choice of handling that situation! So parents remain elderly which we should respect for their existence and children remain children which we should love for their innocence,, love and respect each human being…

  5. Jayanthi CV

    One of the elderly gentleman had drinking habits from childhood and preferred solitude. Opted a home to read, heal his diseases in solitude. Where is the question of isolation here? Very few do manage their life better at Old age calling it vanaprastha.

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