Grateful and Ungrateful


We have two words in Sanskrit Krtajnya and ‘Krtaghna’, which means Grateful and Ungrateful.


There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, “If I could only see the world, I would marry you.”

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her, “Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?”

The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn’t expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.


Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: “Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.”


Lesson: This is how the human mind often works when our status changes.


Very few remember what life was like before, and only a very few of those, remember who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

In the story, the boy loved the girl unconditionally, even when she was blind. But when the girl got the gift of eyes, her love for the boy, when she was blind changed dramatically after discovering that the boy is blind. It means that her so called love was only an attachment to someone who stood by her during her life of darkness.


Very few people are capable of loving unconditionally, not because of, but in spite of.


Life Is a Gift.

We have got many things in life as His Gift, which we tend to take for granted, without ever expressing our gratitude for the same. On the contrary, we often crib and complain about that one thing that may be missing in our lives. It is like having 31 teeth in our mouth, but our tongue will keep going into the gap created by the one missing tooth, taking for granted the other 31 teeth.


Today before we say an unkind word, we should think of someone who can’t speak.

Before we complain about the taste of our food, we should think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before we complain about our husband or wife, we should think of someone who’s crying out to God for a companion.

Today before we complain about life, we should think of someone who passed away too young.

Before we complain about our children, we should think of someone who desires children but are barren.

Before we crib about our small house, we should think of the people who are living on the streets.

Before whining about the distance we drive, we should think of someone who walks the same distance.

And when we are tired and we start to complain about our job, we should think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had our job.

And before we think of judging another, we should remember that not one of us is without sin and we all will have to answer to one God.


So when depressing thoughts seem to get us down, we should put a smile on our face and thank God for all he has given us.


Pure, divine love is always unconditional!

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3 thoughts on “Grateful and Ungrateful

  1. Subarna Lal Chitrakar

    wonderful message for unconscious and selfish minded people .
    thank you Guru ji

  2. Chintu

    The story shows how a blind girl became really blind after gaining sight and how an unselfish man was blinded by love while he had the sight.The importance of being grateful is very clearly explained.We are thankful for getting such enlightening messages from Guruji.

  3. Rita

    Hari Aum,

    This article is heart-touching. I think both types of persons are shown in this article. The girl is very selfish, while the boy sacrifices for her, as he loved her unconditionally, even when she was blind. This article teaches us what real love is. If any person doesn’t love and care for us, then we should not waste our time and energy for them, because self respect is an important part of our life.

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