How often do we pause and ask ourselves what we are missing in life? In an ideal world, everyone would do this once in a while, so that there are no future regrets. But unfortunately, the reality we live in is far from ideal, especially as time ticks away before our very eyes. In fact, we rarely find the time to ponder over them, nor do we have time to give some well-deserved love and attention to the people who are dearest to us — whether they’re a spouse, relative, friend or someone we once knew. The following example will urge us to stop and think about our short, fast lives…
A wife made a habit of asking her husband this question: “What did you miss in life?”
When she was 25, he replied despondently: “I missed a job opportunity.”
When she was 35, the husband angrily told her: “I’ve just missed the bus.”
At 45, the husband sadly said: “I missed the opportunity of seeing my close relative before his last breath.”
At 55, the husband said, disappointingly: “I missed a good chance to retire.”
At 65, the husband hurriedly replied: “I missed a dental appointment.”
At 75, the wife didn’t ask anymore. Instead the husband was sitting beside his sick wife, remembering the question she always asked him. This time he asked his wife: “What did you miss in this life?”
And the wife, with a smile and a peaceful look answered: “I did not miss having you in this life.”
The husband was in tears. He always thought that they would be there for a long time. He was so tied up with work and trifles, that he had never been as thoughtful as his wife deserved.
“Sometimes it’s better to put love into hugs than to put it into words.” — Author Unknown
He embraced her tightly and said: “For over 50 years how I have allowed myself to miss out on your deep love for me?”
“You have no idea how much pain you have felt until you look in to the eyes of the one you love and you see nothing…nothing but the glare of light.” — Tamara Calvin
This a familiar kind of story for most of us who live in modern times.
Sometimes, without us realizing, our lives tend to revolve around our jobs. We sacrifice all our time and health to meet social expectations. We are unwilling to spend time on health care.
We miss the opportunity to be with our children while they are growing up.
We neglect the loved ones who cares for us, as well as their health.
“Neglect is a form of abuse. Neglect your finances; abuse your money. Neglect your body; abuse your health. Neglect giving affection; abuse your emotional spirit.” — Lisa Maricle
No one knows what will happen a year from now.
“Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment, and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity.” — Gilda Radner
Life is impermanent, so always live in the present moment.
We need to express gratitude to our loved ones in words, and more importantly in action. We need to show our care in actions.
“Much unhappiness has come into this world because of things left unsaid.” — Author Unknown
The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone. — Harriet Beecher Stone