Searching for Happiness

There were 200 people attending a seminar on mental and physical health. At one point, the speaker told the group they were going to do an activity. He gave each attendee one balloon and told them to write their name on it. Then, the balloons were collected and moved into a very small room.

 

The participants were then asked to go into the other room and were given two minutes to find their balloon.

 

It was chaos. People were searching frantically for their balloon, pushing each other and running into one another while they grabbed a balloon, looked at it and inevitably tossed it to the side.

 

At the end of the two minutes, no one had found the balloon that had their name on it.

 

Then, the speaker asked the participants to go back in the room and pick up one balloon at random, look at the name, and return it to its owner. Within minutes, everyone had been reunited with their original balloon.

 

The speaker then told the group, “This is what it’s like when people are frantically searching for their own happiness in life. People push others aside to get the things that they want that they believe will bring them happiness. However, our happiness actually lies in helping other people and working together as a community.

 

We will get our happiness if we help other people find theirs.

 

A wealth of evidence consistently shows that self-focused attention undermines happiness and causes depression.

 

“The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.” — Erric Hoffer

 

“If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” — Dalai Lama

 

Helping others makes us happy because it gives us a sense of purpose. In fact, a study from the London School of Economics found that the more we help other people, the happier we will be. The researchers compared the variance in happiness levels of people who don’t help others on a regular basis to the happiness of weekly volunteers. They found that the participants had the same variance in happiness as those who make $75,000 – $100,000 annually vs $20,000.

 

Helping others brings us happiness for three reasons:

Diversion

When we worry less about our own needs — in this case, finding our own balloon — the stress of that hunt decreases. Moreover, the though that someone will find our own balloon, also helps reduce stress. Taking our focus away from the fact that we can’t find our own balloon lets us divert our attention away from our own problem. The feeling of compassion replaces the feeling of need.

 

Perspective

Having concern for other people helps us remember that we are all facing similar problems in life — no matter what the individual severity of the issue is. Sometimes when we are focused on our own issues, they get put into perspective when we encounter the true suffering of others (for example, bereavement or a severe disability). It’s easy to then realize the excess amount of attention we’ve been giving our own problems. Having compassion helps us put our problems into perspective.

 

Connection

Connecting with others by helping them, can bring happiness into our lives. Humans are social beings that need to have positive connections with other people in order to be happy. Connecting with other people enriches our lives and gives us a sense of fulfillment.

 

Our happiness actually lies in helping other people and working together as a community.

 

Accept life as it comes, you’ll find happiness in every moment.

Posted by:

happyalways

3 Comments

  1. Madhu Sengupta -  September 13, 2020 - 10:42 am

    Hari Om Swamiji ,
    Thank you for this beautiful article on ‘Searching for Happiness”
    We are lost most of the time searching for our own happiness and forget our near and dear ones. Compassion, connection and acceptance enriches our lives.

    Reply
  2. Vimalchand Shrishrimal -  September 13, 2020 - 11:23 am

    Respected Swamiji,
    Sadar Praam and Hari Aum,
    Excellent article conveys essence of the message that helping others will give true happiness to us.
    Regards

    Reply
  3. Rita -  September 15, 2020 - 4:07 pm

    Hari Aum!
    Swami-ji
    This is a nice article. Whenever we help others without selfish motive, it does give us some joy and a sense of fulfillment. We should not go anywhere for happiness because real happiness is within us. “Accept life as it comes, you’ll find happiness in every moment” – I will endeavor to follow this in my life.
    Swami-ji your blessings always are with me and my family.

    Reply

Leave A Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked (required):