1) Non-interference in Others’ Affairs Unless Asked to Do So
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of a higher Reality. Each one of us is a unique manifestation. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way because each one of us is at a different physical, mental and intellectual evolutionary level as well as on the spiritual path. All men or women act the way they do driven by the nature’s programming within. If we mind our own business we will keep our peace.
2) Forgive and Forget
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances or hold grudges. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” The people whom we hate occupy a rent-free space in our hearts. We need to get over this bad habit. Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and March On. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.
3) Do Not Crave For Recognition
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise us today because we are in power or they benefit from us, but no sooner than we are powerless or they cease to benefit from us, they will forget our achievement and will start finding faults in us. Why should we wish to kill ourselves in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. We should do our duties ethically and sincerely.
4) Do Not Be Jealous
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. We know that we work harder than our colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; we do not. We started a business several years ago, but we are not as successful as our neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should we be jealous? No. Remember everybody’s life is shaped by his / her destiny, which has now become his / her reality. If we are destined to be wealthy, nothing in the world can prevent it. If we are not so destined, nothing or no one can help us either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for our misfortune. Jealousy will not get us anywhere; it will only take away our peace of mind.
Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.
Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
5) Adjust According to the Environment
If we try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are we will fail. We should change what we can and accept what we cannot change and accordingly adjust ourselves to our environment. We should also have the wisdom to know the difference between what we can and what we cannot change, so that we do not waste our time and energy in attempting to do the impossible. As we do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to us, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6) Endure What Cannot Be Cured
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. We should believe in ourselves and we will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.
7) Not to Bite Off More Than One Can Chew
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. We try to be everything to everyone. This is done to satisfy our ego. Doing so is impossible and trying will only burn us out. We should know our limitations. Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? We cannot gain peace of mind by expanding our external activities. But making one person smile can change the world — may be not the whole world, but that one person’s world. So we need to narrow our focus. We need to reduce our material engagements and spend time in introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in our mind that make us restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind and better work-output.
8) Meditate Regularly
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it. If we meditate earnestly for half an hour every day, our mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Our mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. We would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. We may think that this will interfere with our daily work. On the contrary, this will increase our efficiency and we will be able to produce better results in less time.
9) Never Leave the Mind Vacant
An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. We need to keep our mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. We should actively follow a hobby or do something that holds our interest. We must decide what we value more: money or peace of mind. Our hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn us more money, but we will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when we are resting physically, we should occupy ourselves in healthy reading, like books on positive thinking or contemplate on higher Reality.
10) Do Not Procrastinate and Never Regret
Do not waste time in protracted wondering should I or shouldn’t I? Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. We can never plan enough because we can never anticipate all future happenings. We should value our time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if we fail the first time. We can learn from our mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead us nowhere. Whatever is destined not to happen will never happen, try as you may. Whatever is destined to happen will happen, do what you may to prevent it. This is certain.