On Love and Marriage…
A student asked a teacher, “What is love?”
The teacher said, “In order to answer your question, go to a wheat field and choose the biggest wheat grain, just one grain, and come back. But the rule is, you can go through them only once, you cannot turn back to pick and as soon as you pick one you go no further and come back.”
The student went to the field, went through first row, he saw one big wheat grain, but he wonders maybe I will find a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he realized that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he knew he missed the biggest one and he regretted.
He finished the task and went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, “This is love. You keep looking for a better one, but later you realize, you already missed the person.”
“चमन मे फसल-ए-बहार आयी और गुज़र भी गयी /
मै फ़िक्र ही में रहा आशियाँ बनानेके / /”
(“The bloom season came in the garden and passed away /
I just kept thinking of making a home” //)
“What is marriage then?” the student asked.
The teacher said, “In order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn, just a single corn, and come back. But the rule is, you can go through them only once, you cannot turn back to pick and as soon as you pick one you go no further and come back.”
The student went to the corn field. This time he was careful not to repeat the previous mistake. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked one medium corn and felt it was the right one and went back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, “This time you brought a corn that looked nice and you had faith and believed this was the best one you could get. This is marriage.”
5 thoughts on “On Love and Marriage…”
Great thoughts, nice lesson
Swamiji, Hari Aum!
Oh my God, what a superb article I have read…One of the best articles explaining LOVE AND MARRIAGE…
Realy best article for this explanation…
These examples nicely explain love and marriage. In life, we should be happy in any situation, without having any regrets for the choices we make. Love should always be pure and unconditional, which is rare. About marriage, it is said that our destiny decides it for us.
The truth is both are mithya (illusion)…
Why just the two? As per the Upanishads, the highest spiritual texts of India, everything is mithyaa (illusion / having only a relative reality or existence), except the non-dual Self, which is the Supreme Reality, the Absolute Truth. It is also true that we love ourselves the most. The one who realizes one’s own Real Self, which is non-dual, will also realize that nothing exists other than that Self and the entire existence is an extension of one’s own Real Self. Such a one will have love for the entire existence. Therefore, great saints, sages and masters, who had realized their True Self, had pure, unconditional love for the entire existence.